In yesterday’s post Men: Overcoming Visual Temptation, An Introduction, three “perimeters of defense” were presented in order to wage war on the enemy of visual temptation that leads to sexual impurity.
… your objective in the war against lust is to build three perimeters of defense into your life:
1. With your eyes.
2. In your mind.
3. In your heart.
My husband and I are continually amused by the number of women on TV who must have body temperatures well above normal. Have you ever noticed that men in TV shows, especially crime dramas, wear long pants, long sleeves, a tie, and often a jacket while the women walk around in tight, low-neck tops and short skirts? Excuse me, but there is definitely something wrong with this picture. Even in the house with the furnace running, my husband is the one wearing shorts and short-sleeved shirts while I am wrapped up head to toe in flannel or fleece and considering wrapping up in a quilt when I sit down. I’ll bet it’s pretty much the same at your house as well.
What it comes down to is, sex sells. Whether it’s a lingerie ad or a big cheeseburger from your favorite fast-food place, if there’s a woman in the picture, she won’t be as fully dressed as the weather calls for.
Because these images come up so fast, whether on TV or at the mall when you least expect it, you must train your eyes to “bounce” away from these images that threaten to draw you in.
Think of the first perimenter (your eyes) as your outermost defense wall with “Keep Out” signs around it. (This first perimeter) defends your eyes by covenant (as Job did: “I made a convenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl”) and you do that by training your eyes to bounce from objects of lust. (Every Man’s Battle, p. 104)
Think of it as bouncing a ball or skipping a rock. The ball or the rock hits the surface for the briefest of moments and moves on. In order to build the perimeter of guarding your eyes, you must practice the art of bouncing your eyes anytime a sensual image crosses your path, be it on TV, in print, or in person.
For more on this subject, I refer you to the excellent book Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time, by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (WaterBrook Press, Colorado Springs, CO, 2000).
Yours for the celebration of life,