The true-life story in Reader’s Digest (March 2008, p. 50) goes like this:
I recently married an Army officer. My seven-year-old daughter took one look at his uniform and, noticing the double bars of his captain’s insignia, asked, “Is that your Pause button?”
It’s a very cute story, and it got me to thinking … what if we all came with a Pause button?
It seems pretty handy as I think about it, and it brings up another question, Would you be more likely to use the Pause button to pause yourself or to pause someone else?
If we all came with a Pause button ….
Would you pause yourself before saying something hurtful to someone else?
Would you pause yourself before taking a wrong turn in your life?
Would you pause yourself before making a decision based on desires rather than needs?
Would you pause yourself before acting unkindly toward others?
Would you pause yourself before spending too much money or eating too many cookies?
Would you pause yourself before hitting the Send button on a scathing email?
Or would you be more likely to pause someone else when they make you mad or when they are about to do something you don’t understand?
Would you pause someone else that you just don’t like so you don’t have to hear their opinions which you undoubtedly don’t agree with anyway?
Would you pause someone else when you just don’t have time because you have so many other things to do that are more pressing?
As I think about, the question isn’t really would you pause yourself or someone else. Rather the question is, how do you use your Pause button?
If you continually pause someone else instead of yourself, what benefit is that to your relationships?
If you pause someone else because you don’t have the time or the energy, what message does that convey?
If you pause your husband or your wife because you feel like you are giving more than your share, how will you know when to press Play again?
Today, try using the Pause button on yourself instead of others. In other words, Be slow to speak and quick to listen.
It will be hard if you’re not used to it, but it will pay off in the end.
Yours for the celebration of marriage,
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